[Buddha-l] Is polyamory kilesa?

[david.r.webster at blueyonder.co.uk]

"I'm convinced you can have sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy 'out of
wedlock', without that threatening the love you feel for your primary
partner and vice versa"
- I am not convinced of this - - in practice.. - not that I have had that
much practice at it...

maybe it is more akusala than kilesa?

D.

> Dear folks,
>
> One of the precepts states you shouldn't do sexual misconduct. Would this
> be
> from a monogamous point of view? Suppose you love several partners at the
> same time, let's say, like in a polyamorous situation, where all involved
> are aware of the who's-in. Would this be 'kilesa'? If so, why? As far as I
> understood Buddhism (with exception of Tantra), sexuality is approached
> pretty negatively, as if it were all lust only. But I'm convinced you can
> have sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy 'out of wedlock', without that
> threatening the love you feel for your primary partner and vice versa.
>
> Why would polyamory be 'poisonous' from a Buddhist point of view or any
> point of view?
>
> Stefan
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